"We are in a Relationship"
What importance does this status holds for a normal couple. Does it mean these two can do anything for each other? What is the intensity of this status? How do two entirely different persons come to a conclusion that they want to be in a relationship, when for others they already exist as a related couple. Confusing, isn't it!! I believe that relationships are like staple diet. To each his own. It depends on the background of the person, the situation in which he is brought up and the friends he is surrounded by. It also depends on the kinds of relationships one has been into and one has seen. Also, one cannot learn from other relationships. Because like snowflakes, no two relationships are alike.
I think there is so much that goes into a relationship. Some people say they don't need any effort to keep their relationship going. But I think they lie. They have got so habituated by each other's presence that they don't even realize that they are sacrificing their likes and dislikes just to keep the other person happy. Then there are people who won't sacrifice their present lifestyle to accommodate the new tenant in their heart, mind and cellphone. They continue living like a person not in any relationship. The other person keeps on adjusting to this person's lifestyle.
Often, couples are classified distinctively. The wife of the fellow man is a dominating one. Or the husband is a pretty nasty fellow, he talks to other women in presence of his wife and so on and so forth. But I think, no person is same all the time. The wife who seems dominating to others is being trained so. Her husband wants her to be dominated because he loves her as the lead in their family. The husband who is eying other women in the presence of his wife has been allowed to do so, because his wife knows his nature is such. Relationships are all about compatibility between two beings. Relationships don't need the stamp of other people. Even when the couple fight, they need to sort it out on their own. It might happen that these stamps ruin their relationship as this is when past matters surface and engrave the situation.
If we rewind our lives, then we come to know different breeds of couples. Wives who could anything for husbands, even change their first names along with second. Sometimes forget the family they come from and transform into a different being. But the present wives, who are many a times, girlfriends first belong to a little different shade. The information age has turned them into persons who are not just an accessory to the family, but beings who shouldn't be dependent on men. They shouldn't consider men their whole and soul, but just as a mere husband. This is again a stamp by chauvinists, that if a women is modernist, she shouldn't treat her husband as her God.
All said and done, the knowledge about relationships won't come through my one article or a thousand others on Google. It doesn't even come by consulting a self-made expert or other people. It comes by your own experience. And then you realize how wrong were other people. This makes you vow that this won't happen when "we're in a relationship".
What importance does this status holds for a normal couple. Does it mean these two can do anything for each other? What is the intensity of this status? How do two entirely different persons come to a conclusion that they want to be in a relationship, when for others they already exist as a related couple. Confusing, isn't it!! I believe that relationships are like staple diet. To each his own. It depends on the background of the person, the situation in which he is brought up and the friends he is surrounded by. It also depends on the kinds of relationships one has been into and one has seen. Also, one cannot learn from other relationships. Because like snowflakes, no two relationships are alike.
I think there is so much that goes into a relationship. Some people say they don't need any effort to keep their relationship going. But I think they lie. They have got so habituated by each other's presence that they don't even realize that they are sacrificing their likes and dislikes just to keep the other person happy. Then there are people who won't sacrifice their present lifestyle to accommodate the new tenant in their heart, mind and cellphone. They continue living like a person not in any relationship. The other person keeps on adjusting to this person's lifestyle.
Often, couples are classified distinctively. The wife of the fellow man is a dominating one. Or the husband is a pretty nasty fellow, he talks to other women in presence of his wife and so on and so forth. But I think, no person is same all the time. The wife who seems dominating to others is being trained so. Her husband wants her to be dominated because he loves her as the lead in their family. The husband who is eying other women in the presence of his wife has been allowed to do so, because his wife knows his nature is such. Relationships are all about compatibility between two beings. Relationships don't need the stamp of other people. Even when the couple fight, they need to sort it out on their own. It might happen that these stamps ruin their relationship as this is when past matters surface and engrave the situation.
If we rewind our lives, then we come to know different breeds of couples. Wives who could anything for husbands, even change their first names along with second. Sometimes forget the family they come from and transform into a different being. But the present wives, who are many a times, girlfriends first belong to a little different shade. The information age has turned them into persons who are not just an accessory to the family, but beings who shouldn't be dependent on men. They shouldn't consider men their whole and soul, but just as a mere husband. This is again a stamp by chauvinists, that if a women is modernist, she shouldn't treat her husband as her God.
All said and done, the knowledge about relationships won't come through my one article or a thousand others on Google. It doesn't even come by consulting a self-made expert or other people. It comes by your own experience. And then you realize how wrong were other people. This makes you vow that this won't happen when "we're in a relationship".
