Getting married to your boyfriend

Weddings are always a grand affair in every person’s life, especially of the girls. And if she is getting married to her long-time boyfriend, then the grandeur of the affair only increases. Now, your relationship of 7 odd years is translating into lifelong happiness. Things are bound to change. However, if you are in a live-in, nothing much changes. However, there is whole lot of changes when both of you are in a long-distance relationship and are going to tie the knots soon. Girl, you are literally going to be a part of his lifestyle. He will not only talk to you every morning, but also be able to see you, right?

This article tells you what are the things you need to look forward to when you are getting married to your boyfriend. First of all, the fundamental rule of every relationship is not to expect anything, then be it your lover who can do anything for you. Expectations are the breeding ground of miseries. Sheena married her boyfriend of three years. Initially, everything went good but later their bedroom became a battleground. Sheena was a simple girl who watched movies a lot. The rosy pictures painted by some of the romantic movies, made Sheena expect the same things from her husband too. Girls, expectations are not bad, but to believe that everything that you expect will be fulfilled in minutes or say, months is wrong.

Problems arise when both husband and wife work. Girls, things were different when you stayed with your parents. Parents are the angels who give everything to you on a platter. Don’t jump to conclusions. Even your husband will make you available all those things that your parents gave you, but gradually. Now, when both of you are working, things are bound to change and ease in a matter of few months. For this, both of you should talk often. The best thing is to discuss the finances, which can create a problem. However, for the domestic work, both of you will have to decide, who will do what chore (even if there is a domestic help). This will clear our confusions that are bound to arise.

What if, your would-be husband lived at a bachelor-pad with his friends! Troubles are bound to arise. Yes, your boyfriend is all-set to marry you. There is no doubt in this. But post-wedding, his lifestyle is bound to change, which most of the boys are not aware of. Suddenly, they are struggling with LPG cylinder issues, which they never ever thought of. Or for that matter, they still want to go to movies with all-boys group rather than with you. The best one is getting used to home-cooked food or getting used to a lady in their home. It is on you girl, to give him space and time to adjust to all this.

Marriage is not a rocket science, right girls. And even if it is, then who knows it better than you to tackle it. So, just keep it simple and make your wedding an extra-ordinary affair. Because, this is all you wanted for years. Isn’t it!!!

In a Relationship

"We are in a Relationship"


What importance does this status holds for a normal couple. Does it mean these two can do anything for each other? What is the intensity of this status? How do two entirely different persons come to a conclusion that they want to be in a relationship, when for others they already exist as a related couple. Confusing, isn't it!! I believe that relationships are like staple diet. To each his own. It depends on the background of the person, the situation in which he is brought up and the friends he is surrounded by. It also depends on the kinds of relationships one has been into and one has seen.  Also, one cannot learn from other relationships. Because like snowflakes, no two relationships are alike. 


I think there is so much that goes into a relationship. Some people say they don't need any effort to keep their relationship going. But I think they lie. They have got so habituated by each other's presence that they don't even realize that they are sacrificing their likes and dislikes just to keep the other person happy. Then there are people who won't sacrifice their present lifestyle to accommodate the new tenant in their heart, mind and cellphone. They continue living like a person not in any relationship. The other person keeps on adjusting to this person's lifestyle. 


Often, couples are classified distinctively. The wife of the fellow man is a dominating one. Or the husband is a pretty nasty fellow, he talks to other women in presence of his wife and so on and so forth. But I think, no person is same all the time. The wife who seems dominating to others is being trained so. Her husband wants her to be dominated because he loves her as the lead in their family. The husband who is eying other women in the presence of his wife has been allowed to do so, because his wife knows his nature is such. Relationships are all about compatibility between two beings. Relationships don't need the stamp of other people. Even when the couple fight, they need to sort it out on their own. It might happen that these stamps ruin their relationship as this is when past matters surface and engrave the situation. 


If we rewind our lives, then we come to know different breeds of couples. Wives who could anything for husbands, even change their first names along with second. Sometimes forget the family they come from and transform into a different being. But the present wives, who are many a times, girlfriends first belong to a little different shade. The information age has turned them into persons who are not just an accessory to the family, but beings who shouldn't be dependent on men. They shouldn't consider men their whole and soul, but just as a mere husband. This is again a stamp by chauvinists, that if a women is modernist, she shouldn't treat her husband as her God. 


All said and done, the knowledge about relationships won't come through my one article or a thousand others on Google. It doesn't even come by consulting a self-made expert or other people. It comes by your own experience. And then you realize how wrong were other people.  This makes you vow that this won't happen when "we're in a relationship".